I write to help dismantle black-and-white thinking and to encourage self examination instead of spring-loaded political reactions. You can support me by subscribing. My dad and I didn’t always get each other. I took a path in psychology very different from his career as a bricklayer. What I know about the human nervous system he knows about cars. At times we’ve hung out, surrounded by his automotive tools while I thought
Dec 5, 2022·edited Dec 8, 2022Liked by Carson Kivari
This is brilliant. Thank you!
I've been surprised to find myself writing along the lines of "society needs more masculinity" because for years I had adopted the self-hating narrative of the ultra-progressives whose answer to 'patriarchy' is basically to bury the men. Defending masculinity has been an effort to restore my self of well-being, even my sense of self.
I think you've hit the nail on the head.
Your description of the abuse suffered by 'our' fathers was very provocative, and something too few of us are prepared to acknowledge. These rocks in our lives were actually crumbling on the inside, and we thank them with memes, for example, that further destroy and emasculate them.
Again, thank you for this piece. (Credit to Rav Arora for pointing me to it :) )
Thanks, Carson. This helped me reflect on my own relationship with my father, who was not given the tools or space to process his own childhood and adolescent trauma, yet is an amazing man with so many characteristics I aspire to.
This is brilliant. Thank you!
I've been surprised to find myself writing along the lines of "society needs more masculinity" because for years I had adopted the self-hating narrative of the ultra-progressives whose answer to 'patriarchy' is basically to bury the men. Defending masculinity has been an effort to restore my self of well-being, even my sense of self.
I think you've hit the nail on the head.
Your description of the abuse suffered by 'our' fathers was very provocative, and something too few of us are prepared to acknowledge. These rocks in our lives were actually crumbling on the inside, and we thank them with memes, for example, that further destroy and emasculate them.
Again, thank you for this piece. (Credit to Rav Arora for pointing me to it :) )
This is an amazing article and I’m so happy to share this with all the males in my circle. Can’t wait for part 2, you rockstar therapist you.
Thanks, Carson. This helped me reflect on my own relationship with my father, who was not given the tools or space to process his own childhood and adolescent trauma, yet is an amazing man with so many characteristics I aspire to.
Boy, yes you boy ...I have a multitude of comments I could write but will just say this journey of discovery you are on fills my heart with joy.